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Love me, love me

Love. Happens to be the word of the month right? Isn’t it crazy though, that love usually describes a majority of things like French fries, family members, friends, our children, husbands, but rarely when love is thought about is it your own face that pops up.

We were brought up in a world that if we thought about ourselves we were considered selfish and then it would be proved in the word-bible- that self love is evil. Obviously, if you’re all about yourself and could care less about anyone else around you that’s ugly.. But, loving yourself and thinking of yourself is not evil. Or selfish.

Let’s get into this then:

Do you like yourself?
Do you love yourself?

Did you know that if you answered, “no” or “not fully” to either question it could be the root to many other problems or issues you may be facing?

Because if it isn’t rooted in love… It’s rooted in the opposite. Which is always related to fear.

Mark 12:31 gives us the second greatest commandment from Jesus himself, “love your neighbor as yourself.

This is the only place in scripture that is the closest to saying, “love yourself” and notice he didn’t even make it as a prerequisite to loving others or say these were the three greatest commandments.. He said first, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind and with all your strength.

If we truly loved God in that way I think He believed we would be able to reflect the love He has given us and be able to love ourselves well and then in turn love our neighbors as ourselves.

I honestly don’t feel we do though. Sure we love ourselves, but it’s conditional. No mercy, grace, forgiveness, and then we end up loving people around us with this same love. When it should be at a standard that Papa loves from.

If you don’t have love how can you give it? If it’s to a certain measure it’s given at a certain measure even if you’re thinking you love greatly and you probably do, but it can be greater still.

So what is loving yourself? ask yourself to answer this from your actual reality, don’t sugar coat it with all the right things to say if that’s not how you truly feel, get vulnerable.. Just because you may know the truth doesn’t mean it has become your reality yet.

(Each one of us has a different definition of what this may look like because we are all DIFFERENT. So if you find your definition looking outcast don’t freak out.. It’s actually good to figure out what you believe and why instead of jumping on bandwagon beliefs and really have no backing to the why. Understand? 😊)

To me, it’s being thankful and appreciative of who you are, how you look and who He’s created you to be. As well as, making sure you’re taking care of you in every area.

You see love requires action here, it’s not some thing you’re trying to get. It’s an action expressed to others through your living.

Ok you’ve answered what your definition to what loving yourself is, now I want to ask:

HOW do you love yourself? What’s the normal action taken behind your definition?

I’ve taken the liberty to write down a list of a general “how to” but still yours could be more personalized according to you.. This is just a basic skeleton of how to love yourself:

* Make sure you have a solid connection with your source of love Papa..

– You were made by love, from love and for love. Spending time with Him helps you connect more to yourself because in those time He usually reveals something He loves about you and how could you not end up loving the same thing in response? The more you draw closer to Him the more transformation happens to take place (within the areas that are hard for you to accept and love about yourself)

* Take care of your body, your finances, your personal space and your time.

– eating right and exercising alone will make you love yourself because of the crazy effect eating healthy has- try it, eat something not so healthy and watch how you feel afterwards, mostly you’ll feel like a slob and contemplate if you’re good enough for whatever reason. Then try eating something fresh and healthy and afterwards you feel energized, happy and confident, it’s true.- feed yourself well.

-getting the right amount of sleep and the endorphins that get released from working out. Are equally important having same effects as good on you.

– financially stable people tend to love themselves more because they feel less stressed and pressured with bills and other financial responsibilities. I know we happen to love shopping, but let’s not allow that label of taking all of daddy’s money or our spouses to hinder our financial breakthrough or freedom in being responsible stewards with our money.

– taking care of your personal space and time is vital. If you tend to run late or are disorganized in your time you relay this sense that you aren’t worthy enough to be taken care of in these areas. When you respect your time and other people’s time and space you show yourself worthiness.

* get around loving people.

– people who will not only champion you in loving yourself but love themselves and you makes the love in the atmosphere sticky.. And it will end up all over you. Which may cause a shift in perspective of yourself.

* Do what you love.

-work takes up a big part of your day. Sometimes it may be working with others or it may be just a small office alone.. Or working from home as a housewife, babysitter or mother. If you are not loving what you constantly have in your daily routine you will have a dreadful feeling. Doing what you love or finding a way to love what you are currently maybe seasonally doing will prove yourself worthy and feeling loved once again.

* create a balance in your schedule.

-it can’t be all work and no play or all play and no work.
Which stinks cause we’d like to play all day for money but that’s not how it works ha. Even in busy schedules make time for YOU. And the things you want to pursue.

You have to take the lead in loving yourself aside from Papa. If you expect others to make you feel loved while you’re abandoning your own self.. It’ll never be enough.. Even Papa’s love. Yes that’s true. If you can’t love yourself in some level it will be harder to receive the Father’s love.

Learning to take responsibility in loving yourself, fills you up with the capacity to receive His love and in turn give it away.

A couple scriptures about how Papa loves us and sees us:

You’re the apple of his eye. Psalm 17:8 when he looks at you.. You’re all He sees.

“You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you.” Song of Solomon‬ ‭4‬:‭7‬ (my all time favorite scripture) I would sit there in my moments of not being comfortable enough with loving myself and would repeat this scripture over and over and by just the third or fifth time I was in tears because it became more real to me how much papa thought I was flawless. And how much He loved me.

Suggestion: Read all of Song of Solomon. Study it because it does have interesting comparisons but, it’s insanely romantic and so beautifully written. It makes me cry because that’s how much He loves us and sees us.

To Him.. We are perfect.

I want to take a moment right now to allow some breakthrough to take place..

I want you to write down what you’re uncomfortable loving about yourself, whether it be physical, a characteristic or ANYTHING dealing with you. Write it down. Don’t be “christianically” correct either, if it’s there write it down.

Don’t move on in reading this until you’ve done so…

**breakthrough intermission**

When you’re finished read it.

Not one of you has an empty paper.. There are realities written on those pages.. Even if it’s the smallest thing.

Now, I want you to begin to pray for your ears, eyes, hearts and minds to be attentive to what Abba is saying.. And ask Him what His response is to this list of things or the one thing. Be patient, quiet your mind and listen. Begin to write His response to you on the same piece of paper.. And when you’re done save it. Re-read it. As many times as you have moments where it is a needed reminder.

We are all still growing daily. No one said we had to have it all together now. If anyone tells you they do, I’d be careful in trusting them ha. But honestly, we are well on our way. Pursue what it looks like to love you. 😊

Papa, thank you for love. For being love. You’re the greatest love we could’ve ever encountered. I pray we would come into a greater understanding and knowing about how to love ourselves to better be able to receive the love you have for us and to be able to give that love away. May your voice be the loudest one we hear. The voice of truth.. You are it all. Without you love doesn’t exist. Thank you Abba for you. In Jesus name, amen.

Loving you,
Tanisha Poni 💜

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Love deeply

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner..

Isn’t it odd that Valentine’s Day is the only day of the year to where you’re obligated to love? Other than the typical “love stinks” crowd (who really don’t think such lies and are actually in need of love)

Honestly though, the whole “flowers, chocolates, promises you don’t intend to keep” bit is overrated if it isn’t love all around. Furthermore, love is way too big to be squished in a small 24hr day.

So, why then do we do the cute little cards, gifts, fancy dinners, and everything else with our husbands, boyfriends, friends, family, etc solely on this day? (If you do this more than once a year this does not apply to you..lol)

When’s the last time we loved, like I mean L O V E D deeper than the mirage of all the love money can buy?

When’s the last time you wrote a letter.. Hand written letter to someone whether it be a love letter or an encouraging reminder to a friend?

When’s the last time you paid more attention to the details of what someone’s desires were, to gift that to them on a random day and not just Valentine’s Day?

When’s the last time you actually did what you said you’d do, right when you said you’d do it for someone who asked.. Instead of putting it on the to-do list for later and wind up forgetting?

When’s the last time you loved deeply?

We as women thrive off love do we not? I mean all the small things totally matter: The encouraging words from our best friend, the fact that our spouse or bf noticed we did something different with our hair or makeup, the cute thoughtful gift that someone gave us simply because it reminded them of us, pure quality time without interruption of cell phones or whatever else, good conversation, etc.

All of that is love. But love is deeper still.

Remember that friend who may or may not have known they hurt you?

Remember that family member who said some things that weren’t the sweetest?

Remember your spouse who may have forgotten to take out the garbage again?

All these random issues and opportunities to love deeper rise up daily, but most of the time we allow ourselves to think selfishly and choose to be offended if WE aren’t the ones being loved deeply -after all “THEY did it” right? –

Trust me I am learning this along with you, but it wouldn’t leave my heart to write about today. I told the Lord I was unqualified for it, to which He replied, “Are you saying I don’t know what I’m doing?

Before I said , “that’s not what I meant..” (I mean obviously Papa doesn’t hold onto offense) I knew what He meant.. In my feeling unqualified He already knew I would feel that way and yet He still put it on my heart to write about.. And chose to champion me in an area that isn’t doctorate degree sealed.

That love is deep.

In 1 Peter 4:8 it speaks of the benefits of such love,
Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.”

I like how it reads in the message bible,
“Most of all, love each other as if your life depended on it…”

As if your life depended on it. It’s funny because our life actually does depend on love, being loved, and loving.

Without it what is life?

People constantly beg for a cure in this world, for world peace, no more hatred, no more crime, no more disconnect, etc.

Every single being living on this earth needs one vital thing above food and breath to stay alive, LOVE.

This isn’t some feel good, candy coated rainbows type of message, because when you truly love deep you notice it takes a sacrifice of some kind. Sometimes, it does hurt because love on the other end may not be going through the same filter we have, in which it couldn’t be reciprocated.. But that’s not why we love.

We love because He first loved us.” 1 John 4:19

We can’t sit here in a judge seat with the huge oversized robe and point out who is worthy of our love and who isn’t. That judge seat isn’t ours and clearly the robe isn’t either.

If we wanted people to get what they deserve (completely outside of justice-consequences do come with action/sin-) after hurting us or whatever have you… Then when we, being human, sometimes fail someone, we would get what we deserved… Or worse.. If we got what we deserved before Jesus.

If we cried out to God about the fact that so and so being undeserving of goods or love, I’m certain He isn’t agreeing with you. Possibly He would ask, “I presume then you’d like what you deserve?

Ouch. He wouldn’t be talking about a cute fluffy stuffed animal or feel good words of affirmation either.

Love isn’t selfish. (1 Corinthians 13:5)

Want a beautiful life where everyone gets along and there’s no drama or anything negative in your little corner of the world? It’s going to cost you something..

You’re going to have to be willing to love..deeply.

Ponder on it all. Write down ideas of what loving deeply may look like to Papa, better yet, ask Him what it would look like for ::insert your name here:: to love deeply -to be more personal.

We were made by love, from love, and for love. Every single one of us.

Fact: I have a reminder on my phone that goes off daily around 1pm and it asks this, “Are you loving well today?
– most days I can answer that I am, and then some days pop up where I dislike that I put that in my phone period because it’s hard in the moment. But I did it so I could challenge myself in this. I desire to leave this world with my love as my legacy. I have yet to be able to say this is me 100% of the time but my desire is there. The gentle reminder helps me a lot. If something like this would work for you.. Go for it!

Great heroines were known for their love of something.. My favorite though is Mother Teresa. She fully embodied what it looked like to love deeply. Look up some of her quotes, read a story about her life, it’s incredible. She’s my favorite because it shows me it’s possible to love that much, and has fueled my desire to go after it.

So great heroine, what’s it gonna be?

Papa, thank you for first loving us. For choosing us before the world was ever created, for the ultimate price you paid just so you could have us near. Even the sprinkle of love that we are discovering is overwhelming. I pray Papa that we would honor you in this, that we too would take after you and love deeply, courageously and furiously. Help us to know what that looks like in each of us individually, and spark the desire to do so. We love because you first loved us, may we not forget that gift. Thank you Abba, in Jesus name amen.

Loving you..deeply,
Tanisha Poni 💜

Remember who you are

I woke up the other night/morning asking the Lord what was on His heart for me to blog about.. and granted it may have been around 12am that I asked such a question, but this is what I really got 👉 a vivid vision of The Lion King scene where Simba meets Rafiki, talks about his past and then has a vision of his father telling him, “Remember who you are.”

(Papa knows us and because He knows I am fond of Disney… He likes to give me messages through characters and movies.😄 )

Afterward, I had this strong feeling of the past holding some of us back. Keeping us from receiving all 2015 has for us or even the next 24hrs.

YOUR PAST DOES NOT HAVE THE ACCESS TO DEFINE YOU NOR KEEP YOU.
unless you let it.

The day you asked Jesus to be your Lord you became a NEW CREATION. The old washed away and He made all things new.
(2 Corinthians 5:17)

To Him the past never even happened.

ISNT THAT NUTS?! How is that possible? Because it feels so real to us right? Yet HE REMEMBERS ONLY THE NEW. If you brought your past up to His attention I’m sure he would respond with, “I don’t know what you are talking about.” -Trust me, I’ve asked-

For us, living in the natural world a huge percentage of the time (cause we can experience the supernatural too okay💁), it’s easy to stay in our past. WE think we have to be properly punished for it, because grace and mercy just aren’t going to cut it. No, that’s too nice for us to accept. But, we raise our hands, shout, sing, dance, and receive prayer…. only to go home with the same grey cloud of self-hatred and unforgiveness.

When we do this, we are flat out telling Jesus, “You weren’t enough.”

oh the very real pain that comes from even imagining this cuts deep.

Heroine, JESUS was MORE THAN enough.
He knew.
He knew what He was getting into. He knew He would pay a higher price for people who wouldn’t even squeeze out a rock for him. He knew He would be the one who would suffer consequences for all the “horrible” deeds, sins, etc. done in this world for people who wouldn’t even accept that gift. He KNEW.

How dare I sit there and tell my savior, “Look, Jesus.. you have done so much for me, you loved me, you accepted me, you brought me out of depression, filled my heart with joy, and gave me strength to overcome anxiety, but you see this past mistake… the most horrible thing I did? That is just way too much for you to just wipe away. I have to live with this guilt and shame for the rest of my life, because that’s what I deserve. My self-punishment is more powerful than your sacrifice for me.

N O!!!!!

Darling, He PAID IT ALL.
even after our growing falls and pains. We fall and get picked back up, EVERY TIME.

Just because it happened, or you CHOSE to do it.. doesn’t mean you have it permanently attached to your life resume.

Praise God for GRACE, MERCY and JESUS!

(shame, guilt, and condemnation are from hell.)

Simba ran away, with guilt and shame thinking he killed his father. And Scar let him. Scar WANTED him to think/feel this way. Because he knew if Simba grew up and found out all he was, Scar would be thrown out of pride rock. Forever.

Lovely…. it is time for you to take your place in HIS Kingdom. We cannot sit around some jungle eating bugs the rest of our life because we are afraid of people seeing the “truth” about the kind of person we were or what we did.

IT DOESNT MATTER.
He paid it all.
You are F R E E.

“I, even I, am he who blots out your transgressions, for my OWN sake, and remembers your sins no more.” – Isaiah 43:25-

“Forget about what’s happened; don’t keep going over OLD history. Be alert, be PRESENT. I’m about to do something brand-new. IT’S BURSTING OUT! Don’t you see it? There it is! I’m making a road through the desert, rivers in the badlands.” – Isaiah 43:18-19 MSG-

Remember WHO YOU ARE. (And WHOSE you are.)

Oh you don’t know??
let me help you out..
You is kind, you is smart, you is important.” haha ok no really.. here you go:

1st and foremost you are A DAUGHTER OF THE MOST HIGH KING.
You are POWERFUL.
You are CAPABLE.
You are BEAUTIFUL.
You are MATCHLESS.
You are INFLUENTIAL.
You are CONFIDENT.
You are BRILLIANT.
You are JOYFUL.
You are BRAVE.
You are BOLD.
You are ROYALTY.
You are FORGIVEN.
You are CHOSEN.
You are ACCEPTED.
You are LOVED.
You are HIS.

Don’t shake your head…just receive. These are your TRUTHS. This is only a pinch of who you are and how Papa sees you. I gave you a pretty great head start. So run back to your rightful place, discover the more to this list, and reveal YOU.

All of creation is waiting for it.

“For the creation waits in eager expectation for the children of God to be revealed.” Romans 8:19

Papa, you are everything. Daily we are thankful for the sacrifice you made at the cross. For choosing us. For loving us with a love we will never fully be able to grasp. You are the best Papa in the whole world. I pray that from this year forward every chain that has bound us to our past would forever be broken NOW in Jesus name. I pray that the thoughts, lies, feelings and emotions that are negative towards this would disappear right now. Every ounce of pain and self hatred has to go right now too. Papa I pray that you would replace all this junk with your GRACE, PEACE, and most of all PERFECT LOVE. I declare 2015 will be the year we say, “YES!” whole heartedly to our rightful place in your kingdom and to knowing and continually discovering our identity in you. Thank you so much Papa, I love you. In Jesus name Amen.

If you have been victim to your own self hatred or unforgiveness and would like to get rid of it pray this from your heart:

Papa, right now I choose to repent (turn away from) from self hatred and I choose to come out of alignment with it and everything that came with it right now. I also choose to forgive myself of my past mistakes, and my past in general and choose to come out of alignment with unforgiveness and into alignment with the truth that I have been redeemed. I choose from this day forward to not be governed by my past but by your love. Thank you Papa, In Jesus name amen.”

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*If you have further questions on this subject or what you just prayed please feel free to email me at weareshe1@gmail.com I’d love to do my best to answer them*

Loving you,
Tanisha Poni 💜

Christmas presence

We are 3 days away from one of my favorite days of the year.. December 25th!

Christmas. 😍

Recently, I’ve been people watching (I know it’s weird, but don’t be actin like you don’t do it!) and people are SO on a hunt for the BEST gift. They are so desperate, they become stressed out! And don’t get me started on the ones who end up receiving unexpected early gifts.. They freak out wanting to impulse buy out of obligation. But is that what it’s all about? Presents?

Let’s get one thing clear right now before I continue.. I am a giver. I love to bless my loved ones with gifts. I also don’t mind receiving them either ha, but Christmas isn’t about presents under the tree…or a tree period.

I just want to remind you of one thing and then I’ll be done 😊

Christmas is about celebrating the greatest life we could’ve ever been graced with. Jesus. He became the gift of life for us then, so we could have the ability to be that gift now.

When we accepted what He did for us, and gave Him permission to live with us, we were given the same anointing that was on His life. Which enables us to be life givers.

Now, I’m not saying you can pile up some dirt and breathe life into it- that’s kinda Frankensteinish- I’m saying, we have the awesome opportunity to give LIFE away. Our life.

LIFE- time, love, attention, care, provision, advice, counsel, prayer, joy, hope, encouragement, etc.

That’s my life definition. To “give LIFE” away looks like spending time, loving on someone, giving your full attention, showing you care, providing when you see a need, offering advice and following through if it’s accepted, counseling through an issue- helping them walk through it-, simply praying for someone- really not just saying, “I’m praying!” Or “I’ll be praying!” And not actually do it-, releasing joy and hope into their current situations just by smiling and offering all these things to them along with encouragement to seal it all in.

We have been given such a gift in this life. We learn daily about the goodness of God and how wonderful it is to live knowing Jesus! We can’t keep all that to ourselves..

What are you saying Tanisha?

I’m saying let’s give LIFE away for Christmas. Let’s take a step back and actually get to know our loved ones. No matter how often you’re around them you can always learn something new.
Let’s put our phones down– Instagram can wait to see your beautiful face with your family later, it’s not going anywhere- and actually go further than the mundane conversation that goes like,  “I’ve missed you! How have you been ??”
I know it’s been awhile! I’ve been great how about you?!”
I’ve been great too!”
That’s awesome ::smile::”

And then you both look around and feel awkward so you grab the phone…. No! Stop it! Ask questions! Dig deeper! Have the obvious intention to spend time getting to know them. You may find out something isn’t so great and gold coated, simply because vulnerability comes out in safe places.

Family, friends-relationships- are so important. I recently got to be apart of something greater within my family’s lives and Papa showed off with just how great His love really is! My husband and I spent time no matter how late it was, to release LIFE over them. The reward is hearing the shift take place. The one where hopelessness and despair turn into hope and joy! It’s so worth it.

Don’t be concerned with the presents under the tree… Be concerned with the present in being PRESENT during this time.

After all, the giver is Papa, the wrapping is Jesus, and the gift is YOU.

Celebrate Jesus in honoring Him with your life and following His footsteps in giving life away. Christmas is brighter and less stressful when we focus on what truly matters and what it’s all about.

I’ll tell you a little secret: your presence will mean more to them than your sacrifice to wait in line to get that extra on sale present, or the last minute one. They won’t feel like you love them less.. If you intently spend your time with them. If they do…slap em. And reveal the truth that they are loved! (Hah ok don’t slap em.. That’s not helpful)

Christmas presence– the visible, tangible, occurring, awareness of love, life, joy, and every other good thing. 😉

Papa,I thank you for the reason behind this wonderful season. I thank you for your son Jesus. I thank you that His life was the greatest example of what you want our lives to look like. I thank you that you loved us so much to sacrifice your only son so that we could have a chance to live. Papa I pray that this Christmas we would fully grasp what it means to be present. To come into a greater understanding of the birth of Jesus and the beauty of His story. I pray that it would not only be in this season but it would overflow to our new year. Help us to give life away, give us words of encouragement, wisdom, and knowledge to be a priceless blessing to our loved ones. We ultimately want you to be exalted Papa so they may know you more. Thank you for choosing us for such a time as this. I’m overwhelmed. I love you, in Jesus name, amen.

“She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins.” (Matthew 1:21)

Merry Christmas my beautiful gems, I hope it’s the best yet!

Loving you,
Tanisha Poni 💜

Forget me not

Not one time have you been forgotten.
Never has He passed you by. 
He sees you. 
He knows you. 

I’m referring to Papa (God) obviously when I say “He” because He is the only one these truths can apply to. 

I feel like today someone needs to know this.. So I’m choosing to use my blog platform to be able to say that He hasn’t left. 
He is not paying more attention to someone else over you. 

In His word it says, “Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands..” (‭Isaiah‬ ‭49‬:‭15-16‬) 

“I will NOT forget you!” 

You my dear, are still seen
You are still heard
You are still known
You are still HIS

If you’re dealing with shame because of something you did or didn’t do, get rid of it! Shame will block your ability to accept His unfailing love and these promises for you. 

It may seem like you’ve been abandoned by all the left and right happenings that’ve popped up recently, but don’t allow yourself to begin to walk by sight.. Walk by faith! 

He hasn’t abandoned you! 

“..For the Lord your God goes with you; He will not leave you nor forsake you.” (Deuteronomy 31:6) 
Forsake- abandon, leave behind, let alone, neglect, desert. 

He will not leave you nor forsake you. 

He promised this a long time ago.. And still His promise holds true. 
So tell your feelings of abandonment and feeling forgotten the truth of these promises and be free! 

How could He ever forget you
You’re the only you in His world..He WANTS you. The apple of His eye.. 

Cry out to Him if it’s hard. He will weep with you. 

I’ve been in a season where I didn’t “feel” Him or “hear” Him at all. But because of these truths, I knew He was there. I didn’t doubt that once. Was it uncomfortable? Sometimes, but I filled my spirit up with the promise that He’s been with me all along, and He will forever and always be right here

Breathe beautiful. Papa has you in His hands.. I keep hearing Him say, “You’re safe here with me..” 

You CAN trust this. You can trust Him. Hold on lovely, this story isn’t over yet. 

Papa I thank you for never forgetting us. The ones you so willingly sacrificed for, just so we would KNOW these truths and your love for us. You knew what you were getting into.. You knew we would one day deal with the thoughts of abandonment and question our faith and still you chose to do it. Thank you Papa! For trusting the greatness within us to grasp it. Although this side of heaven we may not fully get it all, I thank you for what we do get and what we will continue to receive until we meet you in our forever home. You’re everything. Thank you for never leaving.. I love you. In Jesus name, Amen. 

Loving you, 
Tanisha Poni 💜

Smiling’s my favorite

I’m sorta sad Thanksgiving came and left too soon..all that food made me have to unbutton my pants to breathe! (I’m serious girls, I think I gained about ten pounds but goodness those candied yams were worth it!! 😋) BUT now it’s onto CHRISTMAS! 😍

I have no idea why it can’t be all holly jolly every other season but there’s just something about this time of year that really puts the sparkle in our eyes. ✨

Anyway, one of my favorite things to do during this time is watch Christmas movies! Ugh I’m a sucker for them. I’ll watch em all. One that gets played often is ELF with Will Farrell. (He nailed it by the way. Greatest elf ever. I’ll watch it a hundred thousand times I don’t care it’ll still be awesome)

I just like to smile, smiling’s my favorite!” -Buddy the Elf
This quote has become part of my speech because well, it truly does provoke a smile. And It also reminds me how powerful it is to do so.

Smile. 😃

Ok now.. Smile BIG. 😁

Your smile is powerful!

I realize I have mentioned the power in laughing before in my post “she laughs” but it’s so important to smile as well.

It even talks about it in:
Proverbs 15:13 “A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache crushes the spirit.”

And

Proverbs 15:30 “A cheerful look brings joy to the heart, and good news gives health to the bones.”

A cheerful face or look = the presence of a smile. 😃

It’s funny because in the first verse it mentions that it starts from the inside first (a happy heart) and then produces the outside (cheerful face)

Then the second verse uses the reverse of it (outside effecting the inside)

So regardless which comes first that smile provokes your insides to be joyful! (Joyful insides I’m sure keep the doctor away.. Proverbs 17:22)

Ok wrapping it up…
My prescription for you:

•Take a smile break at least ten times a day.

•Make a list of things that bring that smile out.. And post pictures of those things up around you.. Or however you want to do it.

It may seem like the cliché post about being “happy go lucky” and you’re probably like “Whoop dee doo Tanisha this isn’t a big profound deal” (Seriously if you said that Im sad. Jk. 😄) but honestly we need it still. Daily.. (If we didn’t we’d all look like buddy the elf.)

Especially this time of year even though there’s Merriness galore, comparison tries to leak in and be a kill joy-Causing you to not smile where you’re at or with what you currently have-(But not on my watch!😉)

Now then beauty, keep your heart young with joy-put that smile on. You never know who’s going to be around who may need it more than you. 😊

Challenge: Give a smile to someone new every day as a countdown to the new year.. And don’t worry about the outcome.. Just do it to do it. Because smiling’s your favorite. 😁

Papa I pray you would bring the smiles out. The big smiles. The full teeth showing smiles. The bonafide, non forced smiles to release heaven into our daily tasks; and to create breakthrough in our own lives. Thank you for creating the smile, such a universal sign of happiness and ultimately love. Most of all thank you for your smile that permanently radiates over us. Love you Papa, in Jesus name Amen!

Loving you,
Tanisha Poni 💜

Ps. Don’t be giving that FLIRTY smile out girl.. Don’t get cray-hay-hayzyy!💁

Pss. Your smile is BEAUTIFUL. I don’t care if someone told you any different. They lied. So chuck that out and smile sweetie. 😘

Happily ever before

I just celebrated my first year anniversary with my husband yesterday (thank you, thank you😊) and during the celebration this blog topic hit me.

I was happy before I got married.
I had already been living in my fairytale before my vow exchange..

You see, before I said “Yes” to Joe (my husband), I said “Yes” to Jesus first. Yes to His unearned gift of LIFE and Yes ultimately to His love.

I never knew Joy, love, hope, peace, courage, strength, humility, confidence, romance, purpose, patience, etc.. Until Jesus.

Trust me ladies I’m not being “Corny Christian” this is the absolute truth in the best way I could describe it..

When you meet someone, initially your reaction is to get to know them right? Right. And then having gotten to know them you desire time, and more time. So you two spend time together. During that time you grow closer in intimacy-heart wise-and then a vulnerable moment arises.. An area he wasn’t allowed to see before but because of growing trust you gave him access.. And it only strengthened your relationship because he has now seen deeper into you. He then reveals a part of himself that you’ve never experienced and it’s so good that you realize you’re in love with him. Love. You’re discovering the ins and outs of one another and finally you decide to surrender your heart to him. Fully committing yourself to a lifetime of faithful, never shaken love. ::Cues bridal entrance music::

That’s EXACTLY how it went with Jesus.
I spent time with Him. Grew closer to Him. Got vulnerable with Him. Found myself in love with Him. Then made the commitment to never look back. To never leave Him. My whole heart was and still is His.

He presented creation around me in ways I never seen before like the butterfly kisses I blogged about previously.. This love story-Jesus loving me-was my fairytale. A TRUE fairytale.

Some of you may be uncomfortable reading this. Some may feel like I am being the corny Christian but that’s just something you’re going to have to get over because this is REAL LOVE.

LOVE always had a face before your “first love” in school, (or wherever you met him..) Before he was even born or thought of, Love had Jesus’ face. And He ALWAYS loved you.

Everything you’ve ever dreamed up in romance was first dreamed up by Him. (Yes.. Even that.)

I grabbed ahold of all this in my single season and held on tight to it. I dove deep. My single season wasn’t dreadful. It was amazing. Because of this, I allowed a LOT of growth to occur then; which has truly done wonders for my marriage. Had this not happened, I’m sure we would be working on a lot more independent issues than being able to focus on US as one.

So yes your “HAPPILY EVER..” starts now. If your mindset isn’t there, do everything you can to get it going. To be able to live happily ever before AND after is a definite blessing.

I’m going to give you a list of things I did in my single season to help jump start you in how to go about it:

I stayed away from romance movies. (You groan now but trust me it helps protect your mind from building up fantasies or expectations that are just not reality. Plus it only came with a stronger lonely feeling than it would without watching these. I LOVE love and romance so it was definitely something I had to grow strength in but it paid off.)

I also protected my ears from what songs I was listening to. (Ok I realize this is starting to look like a bunch of “don’ts” but I’ll get to the “do’s” after.- love songs also build up fantasies.. I mean come on falling in love at a coffee shop?? Sure it’s dreamy but unless your life is really REALLY out there it just doesn’t happen. I wasn’t a stickler about this I would know what I could handle and what I couldn’t and I would switch the song if I started to feel anything outside of secure in my singleness.-I really did like that song though hah-)

I put my phone away.. Deleted numbers that could be tempting. (Girl, you know you can’t use the excuse of, “I just don’t like unknown numbers and need to know who’s calling or texting so I can know what to answer or not..” URT! If you don’t like unknown numbers that’s even better! You won’t answer it anyway. Old flings or boyfriends creepin up even old thoughts of “good” moments can puppet your thumbs into sending the text or call that could be destructive. The mess is too messy to chance it. Trust me again.)

– I filled my spirit up with romance from The Word. (Here comes the “do’s.. Read Song of Solomon- all of it- and have fun dissecting it. I’m sure it’ll last as long as your single season because I’m still dissecting it in my marriage haha! But it truly helped me when I needed to be reassured in my beauty or felt the need for attention.. And this is the reassurance/attention that has no repercussion-it’s perfect.)

– I got my alone time in with Papa. (Enough said. Get with Him, the encounters you have are gold alone. The visions you see, the words of affirmation you hear.. Goodness it’s that good GOOD. Most definitely.)

I made sure my self talk was healthy and encouraging. (There’s power in a woman who radiates confidence and loves herself as she is. Obviously, as women it’s hard to get to a place such as this with the media all around; so I also didn’t look at magazines or was quick to look the other way with posters of altered beauty,etc-I still do this- but building consistency and faith in it gets you far.)

I started discovering ME. My likes, dislikes, things that made me come alive, passions, desires, dreams, wants..etc. (ladies…let’s be honest, men don’t know what women want because majority of the time WE don’t even know what we want! Hah. If we spent time discovering it instead of expecting a man to we would all be happier 😄)

I held onto my hope but I didn’t keep this particular hope my main screen. (Hope is GREAT to have. It’s powerful. But to constantly have the hope of having a significant other or a husband in my view, would’ve ruined my season so much so that I would’ve been paying more attention to the thoughts that hope now came with, and lost sight of building my NOW happily ever. Focusing on the “future hope” more than your “now hope” can be fatal-might cause you to have a desire to skip seasons- Have hope, just don’t let it become your main focus now.)

Phew! That was a mouthful wasn’t it?! Ok now that I can breathe again, I hope these helped you and encouraged you instead of provoking more groans. I honestly did all these. Some I still do in my marriage, but it so helped my perspective and joy in being single.

There were other things I did or didn’t do, but I think it was molded to myself personally.. So ask Papa for help in what to do or not do. The best thing you can be is willing, (only to Jesus in this time hah) to get rid of what you should get rid of to propel you into the woman you WANT to be before marriage, before a man period. Because last time I checked, God and God alone validated my greatness, my beauty, my success, etc. My husband would be a hot mess if I expected him to do that for me. It just isn’t his job.

Ok let’s pray,

Papa, thank you thank you thank you for single seasons. Thank you for every treasure and promise that is to be found along the process of it and for being who these beauties need you to be in this time. I pray that they would be sparked with joy even now, that their perspectives would shift, so their realities can be enjoyable now. I pray they would protect their hearts, eyes, ears and minds. Thank you for loving us more than we will ever be able to comprehend this side of heaven. I also pray you would sway with them in the best dance of their life right now. So they know how to dance in their future marriages. 😉 you’re such a great Papa, thank you. In Jesus name, amen.

I believe in you. I know it’s possible. So get excited! Happily ever before starts today 😊

* if you have any questions concerning this or you want to know more feel free to email them to me and I will most definitely respond! 👉 weareshe1@gmail.com *

Loving you,
Tanisha Poni 💜