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SHE night out! 11/14/2014

S.H.E had a girls night out in Santana row. We dined like fancy ones at an Italian restaurant fully fit in our black and gold-the theme of the night-table for 15. Before this glamour, we drove about two and a half hours in traffic ! πŸ˜„πŸ™ˆ the best.. I know, everyone loves traffic. But getting there finally and transitioning from tense (I was driving) to breathing it was quite worth it.

We arrived about 20 mins before our dinner reservation so in this extra time I shot each girl two times… With my Canon t4i (that’s a camera everyone…πŸ™Š) I wanted to spring this upon them to break open comfort zones. (Comfort zones don’t allow living) anyway I positioned each one in front of this blue door and had them smile with their teeth.. (No weak smiles hereπŸ’ͺ) and watched a couple squirm in front of the camera but it’s only a stepping stone to being comfortable in their own skin. πŸ˜‰ They each took it like champs and didn’t complain. πŸ“·

After dinner was over, we split up into three groups and went on a hunt for the most random unique thing we could find for however many dollars we had in our pockets combined. The team that had the most unique thing won a prize.. The items of randomness were: a Jewish guy calendar from urban outfitters- complete calendar year with each month being sponsored by a different Jewish guy and his paragraph of which would most likely appear on an “about me” section on eharmony. Next, was a book of letters to myself- a book that had a fold out blank page to where the owner would write a prompted letter to his or herself. And lastly, a frog to place in the water for 72hrs in hopes the packaging wasn’t lying when it said,” grow a prince in 72hrs!” Random enough right? We took it to a vote and the calendar won. πŸ˜‚

It had become significantly colder outside by this time, so hot cocoa and dessert had to come rescue us. πŸ˜‹

We parted our ways, walked the cold mile back to our cars with happy warm tummies and smiles on. It was definitely a successful first S.H.E GNO (girls night out) I can’t wait for the next one.

Bonding with girls is so powerful! Especially in this day, where they’re constantly in competition with one another or backstabbing each other. This night was a dream come true for me and I’m forever grateful. 😊

Loving you,
Tanisha Poni πŸ’œ

*a few girls are missing from our group photo*


Promises, Promises

We’ve all had a promise revealed to us sometime or another. Whether it was by reading scripture, relayed to us through a prophetic word or directly from Papa in our quiet times with Him.

When we initially received this promise, it came perfectly wrapped and looked amazing right? We got all excited as if it were about to unwrap before our very eyes within the next 24 hrs.. And then, because it didn’t we held on tight to the fact that maybe these things take a little longer. So we give the promise a more realistic time to unveil… Then that MONTH goes by and still nothing… We try to have faith that it’ll happen eventually and then without even noticing we forget all about it.

You know its funny because when we were little girls and someone in the natural promised us something, we never let them forget it, until we seen that promise fulfilled. I mean hey..we wanted that bike with the basket, handle ribbons, and don’t forget that bell!

We remembered every detail of that promise, and because our hearts were so steadfast in trust to whomever promised our desires to us, we remained faithful in that trust. We had no idea what fear of being let down or hurt was. All we knew was our desire and the freshness of that promise because we kept thinking about it or asking about it.. “Daddy, remember you promised you were going to buy me a bike?”

Unfortunately today, the fear of being let down or getting our expectations to high only to be disappointed has held us back from tenaciously trusting our Heavenly Father at His word. We don’t want to ask Him about it, or declare them out. Because of that “What if, it just wasn’t for me..” or “That person was off on their prophecy..” skepticism.

Oh but what if they were right! And that promise IS for you because every single one in that Bible of yours is!

Speaking of bibles, this scripture has been fluttering around in my spirit for the past month and it just releases so much peace..

Luke 1:45 reads, “BLESSED is she who BELIEVED He would fulfill His promises to her.”

Blessed is SHE.

The word blessed in this context means to be provided with divine favor and protection!

Believe means to believe relentlessly, without needing a sign or an extra confirmation other than taking Papa at His word knowing He is a God of His word.

So, In order to be BLESSED in our promises we have to BELIEVE.


My fellow beautiful ones, this is crucial. To have disappointment or hurt fall away..to be untouchable. It’s time we tell disappointment and all that junk to beat it!

If you remember anything remember the next 3 keys to this..(oh and the scripture.. write that down!)

3 keys to be protected from disappointment/hurt from “unfulfilled” promises:

1. B E L I E V E Him. If you feel Papa specifically promised you something believe Him for it.. don’t give Him time frame ultimatums.. just believe.

2. WRITE out your promises! Document them all, so you have them in front of you during your quiet times with Him and thank Him for them! They should be posted up on your wall more so than that swim suit model is for physical motivation.. have yourself some spiritual motivation girl!

3. DECLARE them out. Declarations are huge. Words create worlds, (Proverbs 18:21) Speak life over your promises instead of death.

Guess what? I don’t care how long it’s been since that promise you so deeply desire to see unwrapped has been given to you. I don’t care if it’s as ancient as the hills. Now you have tools to not care either πŸ˜‰

Lastly, remember Papa knows what He is doing. He isn’t that ex boyfriend, or even like our earthly fathers (regardless how good they are) He is GREATER and He keeps His promises.

So hold on to your trust/faith lovely, He’s not done just yet.

Loving you,

Tanisha Poni πŸ’œ

Pep talk for the tough days

Ladies, I feel like some of you are in need of a pep talk in the “life happening now” area of your life haha..so here you go:

KEEP GOING. It’s not over..
DO NOT give up..
It IS possible and you WILL succeed!
You are MORE than a conqueror!! (Romans 8:37) MORE THAN! Come on somebody!! πŸ˜„

Ok, now that we got that 10 second pep talk in, let me explain a little more about embracing the process/choosing to find the light IN the tunnel instead of being so desperate to see the light at the end of it.

When you think about it… In life, there isn’t a destination. There’s no moment of arrival.. Or a finish line once we achieve that goal or dream (ultimately success)

Life is a J O U R N E Y.

So why are we all in a hurry??

What if we started to view achieving our goals like a check point (I love check points in video games..It’s like if you end up failing while in route to your next goal you get to come back and lean on your last victory to encourage you to try again because we do go from glory to glory!-2 Corinthians 3:18) and then we pursue the journey to our next dream on the list.

No one said getting to your wildest dreams would be easy but, they do say dreams are worth the pursuit.

So right now.. You might still be in school of some kind.. Still figuring out if you even want to continue doing what you’re doing..majoring in that major…and working part time or full time at a job or two that you might not want to make a career out of, or are learning how to be a housewife like myself! πŸ˜„ etc..etc..


As women it’s easy to over analyze or question our state in life, It happens to all of us at some point. But, we have to be aware that sometimes it isn’t our questions.. the enemy and his confusing questions can pop up such as, “Did God really say…??” (Genesis 3:1) Annoying I know but we have a SOUND MIND remember?! πŸ˜‰ say,”NO” to camping out at self doubt! πŸ’ͺ

C H O O S E to find the light in the dark tunnel. (the process)

Choose to rejoice in the fact that you’re well on your way. (Philippians 3:12-14) The worst thing you can do is be in a rush.. There’s not a time limit on your accomplishments, yes there’s a ticking clock.. But you are the one who is in control of how much time you have.. You truly are. You’re capable of MAKING time. So make it.

A hero of mine once said,
never compare your beginning to someone else’s middle” and it struck me.
As Americans there’s this ugly thing that got rooted within us to “get up.learn.work.repeat” in order to achieve the fullness of life. And to do it FAST. Now! Now! Now! Cause if you don’t you’re going to be left behind..

Well my heroines, life does keep moving on and people around you may seem to be in a way better spot, But your life and all the opportunities/seasons that should come within it aren’t one of those infomercials on tv where you gotta “act now!” to get the two for one special or “call in the next 15 minutes or this deal is gone!

This is a lie. You have more than enough time.. If an opportunity comes up it won’t be the last time.. Don’t feel pressured to take EVERY opportunity that presents itself well either (they may not be all they seem.. Pray about them and then obey Papa at His word πŸ˜‰)

So pace yourself..

Take the “scenic route” in your amazingly beautiful life and intentionally enjoy the view along the way. You’ll see things more clearly that you may not have noticed before because then it was just a blur.

Be confident in the TRUTH that you are gaining ground.. There’s much greatness stored up within you and Papa loves you too much to leave you where you’re at! Just don’t be in a hurry to “get there..”
No matter if you end up taking a wrong turn..(or what you think is a short cut), He always ends up working things out for the good in perfect timing.. 😊 (Romans 8:28)

So milk this encouragement! Soak it all up and allow it to soothe your mind and give you a bit more clarity on your wonderful pursuit in life.

Just remember these three things (if anything):
1. You’re BRILLIANT and well on your way.
2. Don’t be in such a rush.. Remember life is a journey.
3. Rejoice in your process and high five others who have surpassed you..cause in your own timing you’ll be there.
4. (Yea it’s my blog I can add a bonus one) Be your biggest cheerleader.. Fuel your journey with life words!

Lastly this gem of a scripture (referenced above) that helped and continues to help me enjoy the process..
“I’m not saying that I have this all together, that I have it made. But I am well on my way, reaching out for Christ, who has so wondrously reached out for me. Friends, don’t get me wrong: By no means do I count myself an expert in all of this, but I’ve got my eye on the goal, where God is beckoning us onwardβ€”to Jesus. I’m off and running, and I’m not turning back.” (‭Philippians‬ ‭3‬:‭12-14‬ MSG)

That’s it I’m done.
Get out of here beautiful and go enjoy your process! πŸ˜ƒ

Loving you,
Tanisha Poni πŸ’œ

Overthinking and The Sound Mind.

You know those moments where a certain thought pops into your mind and it’s just ONE thought but it ends up turning into a long drawn out picture in detail of every different scenario or avenue it could possibly take? Yea. That’s called OVERTHINKING.

Yes, unfortunately it happens to all of us but, statistics show we as women tend to deal with it more than men. 😐 It happens in our prayer time even..we will be steady focused on praying and one trigger word comes out our mouth and whoop there it is, the thought trail!

So what causes it? And why does it “naturally” happen in certain situations?
Well I have a theory..


Worry is the root to overthinking. And worry comes from FEAR. Ouch. I know, It hurts so good right? None of us want to know we worry because it highlights an area we need to work on but, it can be taken care of!

Anytime a negative comes up the opposite is what we are usually lacking.. What’s the opposite of fear? L O V E, and we got that!

2 Timothy 1:7 declares we have already been given love, but not just love! It says we also have power and a SOUND MIND! Praise Him! That scripture has been recited over and over and to some probably worn out but, to me it’s one of the most powerful declarations and truths in the bible! It’s for US and in there for a reason, to hold onto in moments where worry (overthinking) can try to rise up.

The bible also says not to worry..about ANYTHING! Period. Did you know that?! In Philippians 4:6-9, “Don’t worry. Instead of worrying, PRAY. Let petitions and PRAISES shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, EVERYTHING coming together for the good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ Displaces worry at the center of your life.”

(If you haven’t found out by now I like relaying certain scriptures out of the MSG version because it just keeps it real ya know?!πŸ˜‰)

He gave us the antidote right there in black and white lovelies, 3 things that will allow Love to burst forth and wipe out worry/fear…
1) do not worry about anything
2) pray about everything
3) thank God for everything

That’s it! Simple enough.😊

So chew on these hearty verses my beauties and let that upcoming project, deadline, test, bill, healthy confrontation, doctor report or whatever it may be think about itself. You HAVE a sound mind. So don’t worry. 😁

Loving you, Tanisha Poni πŸ’œ