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Even if He doesn’t 

It’s been months I know and I have got on my own case about writing but my life has been a roller coaster since August…
On July 28th I found out one of the most life changing truths I could come upon… Seeing a positive sign on a pregnancy test.

I thought my heart fell out my butt as I instantly felt this shock wave come over me. For a moment, all I could do was study this little stick in all angles to make sure I wasn’t seeing things, but yep this was real life. I’m pregnant. Life was beginning to form within my womb…


The night before I went to the bathroom and noticed some spotting.. just when I thought my monthly cycle was upon me I heard the Lord say,

You’re pregnant.

To make sure I wasn’t just thinking I heard that, I checked my cycle calendar (highly suggest getting an app that helps you do this it does wonders for preparation in traveling and things) and sure enough I wasn’t supposed to start till three days later..

and then I heard Him say it again.. “You’re pregnant.”

those words continued to ring in my spirit the whole night.. until the morning when I was able to take a physical test.

When I found out for sure I prayed with my best friend whom came over to be with me to take this test so I wouldn’t freak out alone ha. -I wanted to surprise my husband with one of those cute pregnancy reveals pinterest had to offer.. that’s why he wasn’t the one with me-

I had read a book that had my confidence in being pregnant solid. I wasn’t so much afraid of what would go on inside me and even thinking about labor or delivery. I was more nervous about the idea that I was going to be a mom..

To be more vulnerable.. I probably have the least amount of patience with kids. I mean they’re adorable, and full of life and joy etc. But when they’re screaming about wanting a toy in the store, start babbling super loud in church service, get attitude when they’re still below 3ft…. they just don’t have that grace from me… cause I’ll get some ‘tude right back! 😂

it sounds terrible I know, but they just get on a girl’s nerves. phew I said it, I feel better.

There are two handfuls of kids that I have no problem with as they have supernaturally entered my grace for children zone-it is a small one- but other than that I just don’t volunteer for children activities to save your kids and myself 😅

But here I am about to become a mother myself in 4 months!  -currently I am 5 1/2 months-

All these things went through my mind.. and then the first trimester surprises hit.. the nauseous feeling when it came to foods, or any smell that I just couldn’t take… which brought not eating much, going through my first migraine -lasted four hours I wanted to pistol whip that migraine- and other uncomfortable physical, mental and emotional symptoms.

When I found out I was growing a human I was thinking I wouldn’t get hit with these at all, as I believed in this being a supernatural pregnancy and thinking such, to me it meant skating free from icky symptoms..

Well I didn’t skate free ha. I didn’t skate at all I felt like I had been completely muted to God for a moment.. Pain would come before this pregnancy or sickness and all I would have to do was command it to go in the name of Jesus and it went. No problem. But this time my prayers didn’t seem to do that instantaneous miracle. And going through the pain seemed like I was doing something wrong.

But I wasn’t.

I felt things I’ve never felt before during those first 3 months.. I even wanted to quit several times.. the stretching was too much for me to handle.

It was still summer, but to me I was experiencing a spiritual winter.. and I LOVE winter! But this was something that I thought I wasn’t prepared for.  During one of these moments -as they were mostly moments because I did have joy still- my husband encouraged me.. asking me what people did during winter and proceeded to say they got closer to the fire and people they love. Intimacy became tighter.. 

All I kept thinking about was the fire as I felt that’s what I was in but then the trio of famous guys came to mind and brought new perspective. .

Meshach, Shaderach, and Abendego. 

If anyone knows about fire it’s them.. in Daniel 3 their story of fire came to life for me more than it had before. . .

These guys were in Nebuchadnezzar’s kingdom and this King wanted everyone to worship this false idol he had created, but this trio wasn’t having it. They refused to bow to anything other than God.

When Nebuchadnezzar found this out he summoned for them and made them one last offer while threatening them with the burning furnace should they decline to worship his idol:
If you are ready to fall down and worship the image I made, very good. But if you do not worship it, you will be thrown immediately into a blazing furnace. Then what god will be able to rescue you from my hand?”

Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego replied to the king, “O Nebuchadnezzar we do not need to defend ourselves before you in this matter. If we are thrown into the blazing furnace, the God we serve is able to save us from it, and he will rescue us from your hand, O king.

BUT EVEN IF HE DOES NOT, we want you to know, O king, that we will not serve your gods or worship the image of gold you set up.” Daniel 3: 15-18

Boldly they stood their ground and then made that epic remark “even if he does not.

Even if He doesn’t. 

Their fire they faced was very real and it would cost them their life.. my “fire” I felt was just a season of 3 1/2 months.🙈

They were about to die and still said they chose God regardless if He were to save them or not. Whether He showed up in their now or not. Whether He decided to rescue them from their biggest trial. Whether or not He decided to come reveal His amazing Glory for all the world to see by saving them BEFORE the fire….

He chose to show up IN the fire.

Their story goes on to say that the king ordered the furnace to be turned up 7 times hotter than normal, it was so hot that the soldiers who were called to take the three men and throw them in the furnace were killed from the flames. Meshach, Shaderach, and Abendego were firmly tied up as they fell into the furnace. Meanwhile, Nebuchadnezzar was steadily watching the furnace and suddenly leaped to his feet and asked his council, “Weren’t there three men that were tied up and thrown into the fire?” of course they replied, “yes” and that’s when the king freaked out…

LOOK! I see FOUR men walking around in the fire unbound and unharmed, and the fourth looks like the son of the gods!

Can you imagine facing death and counting on God to rescue you before you even hit the fire and He doesn’t show up?? There would be room for doubt to creep in and strip you from your faith -but these guys chose to trust God in and out of the rescue and the follow through because to them there was no other option, they loved Him.-

In those first few months, I felt abandoned, alone, uncomfortable, and a thousand other things but in the middle of them I got to switch my perspective and allow myself to feel Abba with me in my fire. To be able to stand up and walk freely in it, unbound by negativity especially doubt, unharmed spiritually or mentally.. but I had constant help.

I couldn’t do it on my own because thoughts and emotions would arise that tried to steal this new found love and trust I had for My heavenly father, and that’s what spiritual winters look like.

They cause you to get closer to the ones and one who loves you and chooses you. To champion you in moments of weakness and to propel you into greater faith.

I could cry just remembering how I felt and how Abba showed up for me when I thought He wasn’t even aware of me. I thought if He showed up before the fire that’s when His glory would be revealed the most…

But IN the fire, and still choosing to be close to Him and with Him?

Regardless if I was experiencing things I didn’t want to, uncomfortable or not.. THAT is the real glory.

To still CHOOSE Him even if He doesn’t pop up like a genie as I thought He should..

God has a whole other view of things, and the way He chooses to reveal Himself are not just a benefit for you.. but for EVERYONE around you..

King Nebuchadnezzar was dumbfounded and excited at the same time when he seen the men walking around in the furnace, he called at once for them to be taken out and when they were He wanted to worship their God.

God showed up at the perfect time. And He ALWAYS does.

If you’re in a trial, having a spiritual winter, feel like giving up, etc..

Shake it off and strengthen your faith Girl! He is a GOOD GOOD Father, remind yourself of all He’s done… the price He paid for your life should already be enough and from that place you get to choose to worship and trust Him EVEN IF HE DOESN’T show up the way you think He should or would.. 😉

Father good goodness you continue to blow me away. The love you have for me will never be understood this side of heaven, because its too vast to comprehend but I thank you for it still. And thank you for being you and doing things the way you do them. Thank you for being in the fire experiencing all this with me. I will continue to choose you even if you don’t because I know you promised to always be with me even if I cannot see. . I love you Abba I pray that every child of yours reading this would be injected with greater faith and stability in their walk with you and revelation of just how much you’re in this life with them.. Thank you again, in Jesus name amen

Loving you ya fierce faith having beauty,
Tanisha Poni 💜

-now my heart is not to impart fear to those of you who have yet to become pregnant this is just my journey and I think it’s a beautiful experience 😉 a supernatural pregnancy doesn’t mean it’s exempt of certain physical aspects it means you could stand upon promises Abba has given and declare and proclaim His goodness over yourself and baby 😁-


Heaven is here now

Last Monday, we found out my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer.

In the moment, I remained “strong” and as if I was impenetrable because I wanted to be stable for her. As soon as she left, I broke down. I didn’t get it, I was upset and sad. How could my mother whom I daily pray for have such a “big” issue arise?

Tuesday-Wednesday I felt the same. Although I appeared joyful and faith filled I was aching inside.

Thursday came along and I got mad at the fact that I was downcast for too many days. I re-read scripture, I reminded myself who God was and is, what I’ve seen Him do in other people’s lives, etc. Mostly, I gave up the desire of wanting to understand why it was all happening. When I thought about it, I didn’t have to understand, it’s not why I’m here in these days anyway. As long as my reality remained as heaven’s, understanding became less needed.

Let me explain:

Heaven is here now.

No I’m not crazy, or too exhausted to think straight, this is the TRUTH.

He’s all around us, Heaven is Jesus, it’s the moments we meet..” (Heaven is here now-Jesus Culture)

That song popped up in my head out of nowhere and it hit me. My reality is heaven. My reality is Jesus. My reality is hope. My reality is life. My reality is joy. My reality is no matter what it looks like God is doing something.

My reality is heaven.. So disease, hardship, turmoil, etc. Don’t have the ability to shake my faith, they don’t have the ability to rip my focus away from my King.

Whether it’s absolutely horrible or not, I get to choose my reality. I’m not preparing for the worst to take place, I can’t sit here and allow the negative “what ifs” to peck at me, because I choose faith. And faith says, “heaven is here now”

In heaven there is no pain. There is no sickness and disease. There’s no depression, anxiety or fear.

There is health, wholeness, joy, peace and love. And if that’s true then all that can be experienced right here. Right now.

In Ephesians 2:6 it says, “and God raised us up with Christ and seated us with Him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus.”

Right now we are seated in heavenly places. Heaven is here now.

In Matthew 6:10 we learned how to pray and a piece of it went like this, “your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.”

On earth as it is in heaven.
That means whatever is going on in heaven may it be here on earth too.

You prayed for it. Heaven is here now.

What are you saying Tanisha?

Thanks for always asking.. 😉 this is what I’m saying,

Being stuck in the reports of doctors and the foretold future with my mother’s condition isn’t my home. I see her being completely healed and sharing the incredible testimony with others releasing hope. If it’s down to the last second and she goes into surgery, I still have the reality that I live for a miracle maker and He could remove this tumor Himself.

Although I’m not in denial of the fact that cancer is a “real” thing, I’m not going to focus my attention and allow fear or anything else chime in. I know once I open my mouth and declare heavenly truths and feed my faith something shifts. Whether it is seen or not.

Because we walk by faith not by sight, right?! (2 Corinthians 5:7)

The situations that pop up and release fear and a trembling in your faith are not your reality. If you fully believe the word of God and in Jesus you get to release your reality into those moments or seasons. Holding onto truth.

Ask Papa what’s in heaven so you can pray for those things here. Allow your heart to be curious about the greater things Jesus said we would do (John 14:12)

I’m holding onto this truth.
No matter what the doctors say, or what tomorrow brings. Whether it hurts to witness my loved ones in pain or not.

Heavenly places is my reality. And it is yours too.

Don’t give up, don’t give in. He is doing something.

Papa, only you know beginning to the end. You hold each and every one of us in your hand. You hold our futures. Whatever tomorrow may bring we can rest assured that we know who holds us together. I pray that we would get a greater revelation on the reality we have been given when we came into your kingdom. I pray you would reveal the beauty of Heaven so we may declare the same here now. I pray that when the going gets tough and it becomes hard to focus on this truth that you would bring people to remind us and stand with us to hold our arms up like Aaron and Hur did for Moses. Thank you for loving us so much. To give us a new reality. Thank you that you have promised to turn around every situation for the good of those who love you. You are everything thank you Papa, in Jesus name amen.

Heaven is here now. Open those beautiful eyes heroine and experience it.

Loving you,
Tanisha Poni 💜

Girl, put your armor on

Ok my fierce warriors, today I’ll be wrapping up the mini series on the armor of God. We have seen the benefits of the sword as well as the shield.. And today we get to understand the rest of our defensive weapons:
-The helmet of salvation
-The breastplate of righteousness
-The belt of truth
-The readiness of the gospel of peace

Let’s dive in then, starting with the helmet:

“Take the helmet of salvation..” Ephesians 6:17

There’s a reason we were told to wear our helmet whenever we rode our bike or decided to rollerblade down the block when we were young.. If we didn’t and happened to fall “our brain would fall out.”

Similar to this real life image, the helmet of salvation saves us from death.

Salvation was a gift from God. It is unearned, only given. (If you are desiring to put the armor on I assume you have been given such a gift, if you haven’t all you need to do is pray to Him for it- “Father I admit I need you and can’t live this life alone, I believe in your son Jesus Christ, that He shed His blood and died for my sin, right now I thank you for this gift of salvation and confess Jesus as my Lord and savior. Thank you for loving me, in Jesus name amen!” 😊)

We don’t have to daily ask for this salvation, but we should recognize it daily. Once we accept salvation, it guarantees that we have victory in battle. Thankful to Jesus for defeating the enemy and giving us the inheritance of fighting from a place of victory rather than fighting for victory.

No one would go into battle without a helmet it would be insane to. So, when the going gets tough remember you already have the victory. 💪

The breastplate:

“..with the breastplate of righteousness in place,” Ephesians 6:14b

A breast plate is used in battle to protect from a direct attack on your heart. Righteousness does the same for us spiritually.

Righteousness is also something that has been inherited.
Once you accepted Jesus and had faith in Him, righteousness came. (Romans 3:22)

Our heart must be protected from things that are NOT righteous. In Proverbs 4:23 it advises, “above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” Obviously without our heart we are lifeless.

We must monitor the things we allow to enter our heart, to raise them to the standard of righteousness.
For example: worrying constantly about health, finances, safety, etc. that might very well be an attack on your heart against the righteous truth in God being our healer, provider and protector.

When dealing with heart issues we have to cut them off at the source, which is normally a thought. The second a thought comes up we have to take action and take that thought captive. (2 Corinthians 10:5)

Here is a clear picture on what we should be thinking,
“Finally, [brothers and] sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. (‭Philippians‬ ‭4‬:‭8‬)

Protect your heart, put that breastplate in place.

The belt:
“Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist,” Ephesians 6:14a

What do belts do? Hold our pants up. -Unless we buy those super tight pants that look painted on.. Which shouldn’t be bought I’m just sayin ladies. 🙈Ha-

So why would we need a belt in battle? Because we don’t have time to constantly hike up our pants or risk a piece of armor falling off from having nothing to hold it up.

TRUTH is the belt that allows you to fight without being distracted by minimal things. Truth keeps the rest of the armor in place.. Without it, you have room to question your salvation, righteousness, faith etc.

The biggest distraction is when you are sideswiped and suddenly become less secure in what is true. When you trail off into uncertainty you lose stability and it is easier to take you out. Now if you’re fully secure in truth, you won’t even have to address the issue, you can remain focused on the battle.

How to put your belt on-
Read scriptures daily. Wake up with them. Post them on your mirror to notice before work, school, or the day. Then share that truth with another in need of it, sometimes when we do this we become even more convinced.

Be filled with truth. So that your day becomes a cinch. 😉

Lastly the shoes:

“..and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace.” (‭Ephesians‬ ‭6‬:‭15‬ NIV)

Basically we are to have ready feet.
What’s ready feet?” I’m glad you asked 😊

To have “ready feet” simply means to be prepared, to actively be ready. To fight, to stand, to further His kingdom, to flee a place we shouldn’t be in.. Etc.

I’m a visual learner so let me put a picture on this one…
I used to box. Boxing not cardboard boxes.. And whenever I got into the ring to spar (practice fight) my feet were probably the most important thing in the ring. If they weren’t ready I could’ve lost my balance. They had to be active in order to maneuver around my opponent or to approach them. If I allowed my feet to be all loosey goosey I would’ve got knocked out by the boy with whom I was fighting… Instead of me knockin his lights out. (True story 😁💪)

Point being I remained in my ready stance until the fight was over.

How to be active in your ready feet:
Be alert. Dialogue with Papa, ask what His direction is for you and your day or moment. It’s not just about battle it can be for your next destination too. No matter what, get close to Him so you know when and how to make your next move.

In boxing my coach remained outside the ring in my corner, shouting out different moves to make or what to avoid, “Don’t let your calves touch the ropes!”
“Keep your left hand up!”
“1,2 combination!” Etc.

With Papa it’s the same way, we just have to be actively ready to hear Him and willing to move.

Goodness this makes me want to get back in the ring! Haha.

Ladies I want you to know something,
You are just as spiritually powerful as a man is. We haven’t been given the “girl Holy Spirit.”
Although we may be the “easy” target on the enemy’s radar because of our vulnerability and sensitive side, does not mean we are weak and unprepared to fight! We have been chosen by Papa to live in such a time as this. Not just to nurture the babies and clean the kitchens. But to equally reign in battle to further His kingdom on this earth and see it rightfully turned over for Him.

We are Heroines. And Heroines we shall be!

Papa, I thank you for the full armor, for not counting us out as women but empowering us all the same. For choosing us and trusting us with this specific time on earth and rooting for us in it. Thank you that the victory has already been won, and for the sacrifice that it cost your son. I pray we would actively be ready and fully functioning within our armor daily, battle or not and continually learning the depths of your love for us throughout it all. In Jesus name amen!

Go get em tiger. 🐯💪

Loving you,
Tanisha Poni 💜

Forget me not

Not one time have you been forgotten.
Never has He passed you by. 
He sees you. 
He knows you. 

I’m referring to Papa (God) obviously when I say “He” because He is the only one these truths can apply to. 

I feel like today someone needs to know this.. So I’m choosing to use my blog platform to be able to say that He hasn’t left. 
He is not paying more attention to someone else over you. 

In His word it says, “Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands..” (‭Isaiah‬ ‭49‬:‭15-16‬) 

“I will NOT forget you!” 

You my dear, are still seen
You are still heard
You are still known
You are still HIS

If you’re dealing with shame because of something you did or didn’t do, get rid of it! Shame will block your ability to accept His unfailing love and these promises for you. 

It may seem like you’ve been abandoned by all the left and right happenings that’ve popped up recently, but don’t allow yourself to begin to walk by sight.. Walk by faith! 

He hasn’t abandoned you! 

“..For the Lord your God goes with you; He will not leave you nor forsake you.” (Deuteronomy 31:6) 
Forsake- abandon, leave behind, let alone, neglect, desert. 

He will not leave you nor forsake you. 

He promised this a long time ago.. And still His promise holds true. 
So tell your feelings of abandonment and feeling forgotten the truth of these promises and be free! 

How could He ever forget you
You’re the only you in His world..He WANTS you. The apple of His eye.. 

Cry out to Him if it’s hard. He will weep with you. 

I’ve been in a season where I didn’t “feel” Him or “hear” Him at all. But because of these truths, I knew He was there. I didn’t doubt that once. Was it uncomfortable? Sometimes, but I filled my spirit up with the promise that He’s been with me all along, and He will forever and always be right here

Breathe beautiful. Papa has you in His hands.. I keep hearing Him say, “You’re safe here with me..” 

You CAN trust this. You can trust Him. Hold on lovely, this story isn’t over yet. 

Papa I thank you for never forgetting us. The ones you so willingly sacrificed for, just so we would KNOW these truths and your love for us. You knew what you were getting into.. You knew we would one day deal with the thoughts of abandonment and question our faith and still you chose to do it. Thank you Papa! For trusting the greatness within us to grasp it. Although this side of heaven we may not fully get it all, I thank you for what we do get and what we will continue to receive until we meet you in our forever home. You’re everything. Thank you for never leaving.. I love you. In Jesus name, Amen. 

Loving you, 
Tanisha Poni 💜

Happily ever before

I just celebrated my first year anniversary with my husband yesterday (thank you, thank you😊) and during the celebration this blog topic hit me.

I was happy before I got married.
I had already been living in my fairytale before my vow exchange..

You see, before I said “Yes” to Joe (my husband), I said “Yes” to Jesus first. Yes to His unearned gift of LIFE and Yes ultimately to His love.

I never knew Joy, love, hope, peace, courage, strength, humility, confidence, romance, purpose, patience, etc.. Until Jesus.

Trust me ladies I’m not being “Corny Christian” this is the absolute truth in the best way I could describe it..

When you meet someone, initially your reaction is to get to know them right? Right. And then having gotten to know them you desire time, and more time. So you two spend time together. During that time you grow closer in intimacy-heart wise-and then a vulnerable moment arises.. An area he wasn’t allowed to see before but because of growing trust you gave him access.. And it only strengthened your relationship because he has now seen deeper into you. He then reveals a part of himself that you’ve never experienced and it’s so good that you realize you’re in love with him. Love. You’re discovering the ins and outs of one another and finally you decide to surrender your heart to him. Fully committing yourself to a lifetime of faithful, never shaken love. ::Cues bridal entrance music::

That’s EXACTLY how it went with Jesus.
I spent time with Him. Grew closer to Him. Got vulnerable with Him. Found myself in love with Him. Then made the commitment to never look back. To never leave Him. My whole heart was and still is His.

He presented creation around me in ways I never seen before like the butterfly kisses I blogged about previously.. This love story-Jesus loving me-was my fairytale. A TRUE fairytale.

Some of you may be uncomfortable reading this. Some may feel like I am being the corny Christian but that’s just something you’re going to have to get over because this is REAL LOVE.

LOVE always had a face before your “first love” in school, (or wherever you met him..) Before he was even born or thought of, Love had Jesus’ face. And He ALWAYS loved you.

Everything you’ve ever dreamed up in romance was first dreamed up by Him. (Yes.. Even that.)

I grabbed ahold of all this in my single season and held on tight to it. I dove deep. My single season wasn’t dreadful. It was amazing. Because of this, I allowed a LOT of growth to occur then; which has truly done wonders for my marriage. Had this not happened, I’m sure we would be working on a lot more independent issues than being able to focus on US as one.

So yes your “HAPPILY EVER..” starts now. If your mindset isn’t there, do everything you can to get it going. To be able to live happily ever before AND after is a definite blessing.

I’m going to give you a list of things I did in my single season to help jump start you in how to go about it:

I stayed away from romance movies. (You groan now but trust me it helps protect your mind from building up fantasies or expectations that are just not reality. Plus it only came with a stronger lonely feeling than it would without watching these. I LOVE love and romance so it was definitely something I had to grow strength in but it paid off.)

I also protected my ears from what songs I was listening to. (Ok I realize this is starting to look like a bunch of “don’ts” but I’ll get to the “do’s” after.- love songs also build up fantasies.. I mean come on falling in love at a coffee shop?? Sure it’s dreamy but unless your life is really REALLY out there it just doesn’t happen. I wasn’t a stickler about this I would know what I could handle and what I couldn’t and I would switch the song if I started to feel anything outside of secure in my singleness.-I really did like that song though hah-)

I put my phone away.. Deleted numbers that could be tempting. (Girl, you know you can’t use the excuse of, “I just don’t like unknown numbers and need to know who’s calling or texting so I can know what to answer or not..” URT! If you don’t like unknown numbers that’s even better! You won’t answer it anyway. Old flings or boyfriends creepin up even old thoughts of “good” moments can puppet your thumbs into sending the text or call that could be destructive. The mess is too messy to chance it. Trust me again.)

– I filled my spirit up with romance from The Word. (Here comes the “do’s.. Read Song of Solomon- all of it- and have fun dissecting it. I’m sure it’ll last as long as your single season because I’m still dissecting it in my marriage haha! But it truly helped me when I needed to be reassured in my beauty or felt the need for attention.. And this is the reassurance/attention that has no repercussion-it’s perfect.)

– I got my alone time in with Papa. (Enough said. Get with Him, the encounters you have are gold alone. The visions you see, the words of affirmation you hear.. Goodness it’s that good GOOD. Most definitely.)

I made sure my self talk was healthy and encouraging. (There’s power in a woman who radiates confidence and loves herself as she is. Obviously, as women it’s hard to get to a place such as this with the media all around; so I also didn’t look at magazines or was quick to look the other way with posters of altered beauty,etc-I still do this- but building consistency and faith in it gets you far.)

I started discovering ME. My likes, dislikes, things that made me come alive, passions, desires, dreams, wants..etc. (ladies…let’s be honest, men don’t know what women want because majority of the time WE don’t even know what we want! Hah. If we spent time discovering it instead of expecting a man to we would all be happier 😄)

I held onto my hope but I didn’t keep this particular hope my main screen. (Hope is GREAT to have. It’s powerful. But to constantly have the hope of having a significant other or a husband in my view, would’ve ruined my season so much so that I would’ve been paying more attention to the thoughts that hope now came with, and lost sight of building my NOW happily ever. Focusing on the “future hope” more than your “now hope” can be fatal-might cause you to have a desire to skip seasons- Have hope, just don’t let it become your main focus now.)

Phew! That was a mouthful wasn’t it?! Ok now that I can breathe again, I hope these helped you and encouraged you instead of provoking more groans. I honestly did all these. Some I still do in my marriage, but it so helped my perspective and joy in being single.

There were other things I did or didn’t do, but I think it was molded to myself personally.. So ask Papa for help in what to do or not do. The best thing you can be is willing, (only to Jesus in this time hah) to get rid of what you should get rid of to propel you into the woman you WANT to be before marriage, before a man period. Because last time I checked, God and God alone validated my greatness, my beauty, my success, etc. My husband would be a hot mess if I expected him to do that for me. It just isn’t his job.

Ok let’s pray,

Papa, thank you thank you thank you for single seasons. Thank you for every treasure and promise that is to be found along the process of it and for being who these beauties need you to be in this time. I pray that they would be sparked with joy even now, that their perspectives would shift, so their realities can be enjoyable now. I pray they would protect their hearts, eyes, ears and minds. Thank you for loving us more than we will ever be able to comprehend this side of heaven. I also pray you would sway with them in the best dance of their life right now. So they know how to dance in their future marriages. 😉 you’re such a great Papa, thank you. In Jesus name, amen.

I believe in you. I know it’s possible. So get excited! Happily ever before starts today 😊

* if you have any questions concerning this or you want to know more feel free to email them to me and I will most definitely respond! 👉 weareshe1@gmail.com *

Loving you,
Tanisha Poni 💜