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It doesn’t hurt to ask

You know what’s funny..we roam around in our daily lives with certain areas where there’s trouble and struggle or maybe just a random want we have and we just continue to DEAL with it.

We pray about the big things like “thank you for today” and “I pray so and so gets healed” or “please protect my children” ..

All the other billion things that happen during our 24hrs (or wants) that pop up, go without mention because something tells us, “It’s not big enough to take to God” or “He has too many other things to take care of, why would He want to waste His time on that” πŸ˜‘

The whole “God is good, all the time” statement may have been used a lot to where it can come off like another famous saying, but it is TRUE!

He is a GOOD Papa! He cares about you!

Let’s use “reality” for a second to drill this in..
How would it look if my father told me when I was little, “Mija, I love you very much.. But don’t come asking me for anything that isn’t an emergency need, or tell me about things unless you’re bleeding. Even then, put your own bandaid on it. I just don’t like to be bothered with your stuff, I have so much more to be worried about. Mmkay?

Uhh…it would look like a CPS case!

My father isn’t like that thank God, but I do know some of us haven’t had the opportunity to have a great dad. And maybe he didn’t do things you needed him to or he said things like that above.. And I’m sorry for that. I’m sorry you felt like you weren’t worthy enough of time or attention.
Honey, sometimes our daddies grow up with the same stuff missing as you did.. Because his own father didn’t give it to him. It’s like: if you needed five dollars, and I didn’t have five dollars, I couldn’t give you five dollars on account that I don’t have it. (Get it?)

It’s like that with our daddies (mommies too) they probably weren’t able to give you those certain things you needed (patience, hugs, words of encouragement, nurturing when we got boo-boos, etc.) because they didn’t receive it when they were little.. They simply don’t know how. πŸ˜•

The good news in all this is.. Our Heavenly Papa is NOT like that. Nor would He have ever said that too me. He isn’t neglecting, too busy, or unloving. You can’t even think about your good dad and times that by a billion to think that’s what Papa is like because He’s out of this world! Completely within His own category.. He loves differently!

Not only does He love you, He LIKES you too! That would hint to the fact that He also likes your voice.. Audible or not.. You’re ALWAYS on His radar.. And no one could ever flick you off it. πŸ˜‰

I’m just saying, you don’t have to silence yourself in prayer and only talk about the “bigger” more “important” things in your life that you’d rather “bother the Lord” with.. He wants to give you the desires of your heart! (Yes..every one..andddd you never bother Him!)

For example:
The hard working wife/mother who labors long hours in the day to take care of her household and her family.. You go ahead.. And pray for those shoes girl! It’s not too little or too shallow to ask for.. You want them? Ask Papa for the money! You DESERVE it.

Nothing is too little.. He cares about every part of you. Because He delights in your existence-Psalm 37:23 (NLT)-Period.

(Of course not every desire is material,
But every desire IS worth communicating to Him..)

In Matthew 7:7 it says, β€œAsk, and it will be given to you seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.”
It didn’t say, “Ask for only the important urgencies in your life, and it will be given to you…”

It just said, “ASK

Wants are not needs. He isn’t limited or surviving paycheck to paycheck.. He is ABUNDANCE. Needs of course should be communicated, but your WANTS are important to Him too.

So what do you want?
What. do. you. W A N T?
(Sky is not the limit..to a limitless God)

Shush the discouraging thoughts trying to cover your mouth and just Ask. And have faith that He will give it to you. 😊

Papa I thank you for just how Great you are.. The fullness of your spirit and your generous heart. You loved us so much you GAVE.. I pray we would be more aware of that part of you and not to be timid in asking you for the things us as women desire.. Teach us how to pray and ask like a DAUGHTER.. Knowing you’re such a good good Papa. In Jesus Name, amen.

Loving you,
Tanisha Poni πŸ’œ


BEE Yourself

My favorite Disney movie is Aladdin.
(I will refrain from the urges of my love for Disney and get to the point of this fact drop..)

I got the title of this post from the scene where Aladdin is trying to impress Princess Jasmine, and Genie is a bee whispering things in his ear to say to her. When that doesn’t go well, Genie makes his inspiring exit with the quote, “..But remember, BEEE yourself.” This said scene also provoked my desire to write this piece..😊

Before I started this whole blog I was hesitant because I thought, “Tons of empowering lady blogs (hah sounds like lady bugsπŸ˜„πŸž) already exist… So why should I try to make one?

You’re probably like, “GASP! Tanisha has thoughts like this pop up?!” Uhhh..YEA GIRL! Lol I’m not an exception to that junk. It happens.. but I choke that lie out with the truth like so:

Yes, there may be tons of those lady blogs BUT! There is NO ONE that will blog like you..because you are the only you.”

And.. that’s all she wrote. (Obviously I’m going to write more but you know what I meanπŸ˜‰)

Ok back on topic.. I pursued writing this blog because I knew no one was going to write EXACTLY what I’m writing, in the way I’m choosing to write it. And just like every other woman composing a blog, I have something to say. I didn’t care if women had done it before, nor about how it was successfully done. Because, there is no other Tanisha Poni I am up against, it’s just ME.

Isn’t that incredible? I’m the only me, and YOU are the ONLY you this world will EVER see.

You are completely unique. I get bothered because that word should be given more credit, and carry weight. These days it’s become clichΓ© or a nice “repost worthy” quote. (πŸ˜‘)

Oh, but it’s meaning!!

Unique /yōō’nΔ“k/ (adj) : being the only one of its kind. Unlike anything else.

Some of the synonyms are: distinct, individual, special, idiosyncratic (cause big words are awesome every now and then πŸ˜„) unrepeatable, exclusive, etc.

Now that I’ve given the English lesson for the day,
Chew on it.

You ::insert your name here:: are a ONCE in a lifetime ::insert your name here too:: !

Even if you’re a twin, you are STILL you.

Darling, this world couldn’t grow to it’s potential without your touch. I mean, that is why you have a different finger print than everyone else.. because no one, can touch the world quite like you.
(D’aww I know, cheesy, but you smiled!)

In Matthew 10:30 it says,
But even the hairs of your head are all numbered.

I realize I could’ve quoted the famous scriptures about being fearfully and wonderfully made, or about being knit in your mother’s womb, but you girls could be like, “Well, EVERYONE was created like that.. So, it’s not distinct.” (😐)


We are women. And we do know much about our lovely locks. As well as, knowing all of our hair textures, lengths, thickness, etc, etc. are NOT the same. Hence, my chosen scripture of proof in your uniqueness. πŸ’ BAM!

The hairs on your head are numbered. He even knows about the ones that fall out in the shower while rinsing the conditioner out, and then them being pinned on the shower wall to hopefully be wiped away right AFTER your shower. πŸ˜‚ (Lol, seriously beauts.. You better clean that!)
And I’m sure those hairs were accounted for, before you even had hair to count..

Let me wrap it up:

1. Pursue YOU.

Wanna paint? Paint.
Wanna sing? Sing.
Wanna be a fashion designer? Design away.
Wanna be a nurse? Nurse it up.

Don’t disqualify yourself because of comparison to the Georgia O’Keeffe, Whitney Houston, Coco Chanel, and Florence Nightingale of the world.. (Obviously these women made history, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t anymore room in the “women’s hall of fame!”) You were created to be beautiful like YOU, not beautiful like them.

2. Release YOU in this life. Stop worrying about what’s “in” or “out”, if so and so will still like you if you come out and say you really didn’t like what they liked, or what new detox everyone is doing and secretly whining through.. Just stop it! (I don’t care if people squirm in their skin because your differences are out of their comfort zone..) don’t copy anyone else’s “you” it’s not good enough.

3. Be You! Do You! Live You!

This world is waiting gem.. 😌

Loving you,
Tanisha Poni πŸ’œ

Chin up buttercup

Beauties, we have entered into my favorite season of the year.. FALL! 😍

ONE of my favorite things (because there are plenty) about this season is the CHANGE that takes place.. The leaves don’t just transform in color, they fall. And the trees become bare, to prepare for new blossoms and growth to take place.

To some, leafless trees are ugly or scary because they’ve lost their color (and are usually in scary movie scenes to add to their discreditπŸ˜‘), but to me they’re most intriguing because I’m passionate about transformation and the process in the trees’ endurance during the cold season.

(Ok this isn’t a tree hugging post I assure you but I’m not knocking the idea! πŸ˜„ )

You and I are given the same exact opportunity to be these autumn trees. We get to allow certain things to transform within us and things to fall off to leave a place for new things to take root. (Healthy and greater things of course)

The problem with all this greatness is that many times these transformations look like trials. They may not feel good, might make you rethink your faith and not appear to mean well, but the good news is.. they can be celebrated!

I feel as though some of you have been going through a “trying” season where things left and right keep giving you a 1,2 combination (that’s some boxing lingo for ya) and you feel as though you’ve either missed it and made a bad decision, you’re losing hope, your joy is sapped, and you could probably have a major crying outburst at any given moment.. Well this is for you:


Have a giggle time out.. And then marvel at this gem of a scripture,

“Dear brothers and SISTERS, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect (full grown) and complete (faultless), needing (lacking) nothing.” James 1:2-4

Did you read that?! This trying season is giving your endurance a chance to grow (just like leaves falling off the tree.. πŸƒπŸ‚) and the great promise in this truth is the fact that your endurance has potential to fully develop ANNNND you will be full grown needing NOTHING! 😍 That’s so encouraging! (So no more eating ice cream with a shovel, or chocolate for that matter unless it’s for fun of course😜)

Guess what? …

You’re EXACTLY where you need to be.
Trust Papa at His word, and take a moment to reflect
on all these left and right blows and allow yourself to put on Joy glasses to accept them as such.

Be honored beautiful one, He wants to take you deeper! πŸ™Œ

Let me wrap it up by praying for you,

Papa, I thank you for new seasons, new depth, and transformation. I thank you that in the so called troublesome times we get to have not only joy, but GREAT joy because it is propelling our spirit of endurance to grow and strengthen. Thank you for the clarity on being right where we are supposed to be and the peace that truth releases. I pray we would be full grown and lacking nothing at the end of it all, having enjoyed our process of blossoming with you. In Jesus’s name, Amen!


Loving you,

Tanisha Poni πŸ’œ

White butterfly kisses

Grab a cup of coffee or tea if you’re like me and have a seat cause I just want to share something significant with you today.. Just lady to lady.. To let you in the world of Tanisha for a few minutes.. Alrighty then let’s start!

There has been more than a handful of moments in my life where I needed that extra ounce of hope, encouragement, joy, love, or reassurance that everything was going to be ok.. (Because sometimes life has tough spots!) and in those moments I did what I knew to do..I cried out to Papa. Every single time, out of no where, a white butterfly would make its presentation in my view..it would dance around me for a bit and then flutter off. (😍) Now I know this may seem odd but I would cry, (yes, every time it happened) because I felt the intentionality of Papa’s heart for me in that instant. And everything I needed washed over me..

Now, these moments have continued to pop up in the various seasons of my beautiful life and I have begun to call them Kisses. Because I fully believe that’s what they are.

Kisses from Heaven.

You know that, “Stop and smell the roses..” saying?
it’s supposed to get us to.. well, stop and smell the roses.. instead of being absorbed by the million other things that tug at our attention during our daily lives. To take a moment and breathe. Right? Well although that’s true and great advice, to me its been given a whole new meaning..

Stop and smell the roses. To encounter the beauty they hold, the fragrance they leak, and the reason they exist in the first place.. to come into greater awareness of just how much our Creator loves us. Doesn’t it look more like a kiss to you now? I mean how romantic is that?! 😍

Roses have become clichΓ© thanks to the use of them mostly being apology aids for our beloved men species..( sorry guys start asking the Holy Spirit for creativity in that areaπŸ˜„) But clear all that out to revive the purity in them.. It doesn’t just stop at roses anyway..

Roses, daisies, tulips, lilies, snapdragons, sunflowers, dandelions, autumn leaves (especially the heart shaped ones), twinkling stars, the first rain, the first snow, morning dew, sunrises, sunsets, ocean waves caressing the shore, the way the sun rays peek through anything they please, the wind as it wraps all around you.. Etc. It all reveals His glory..

Now before you think I’m getting all new agey and “one with the earth” on you, read the truth behind it..

“Ever since the creation of the world His eternal power and divine nature, invisible though they are, have been understood and seen through the things He has made. So they are without excuse.” Romans 1:20

Isn’t this amazing?!? Part of His divine nature is being a LOVER!

So Tanisha.. What are you saying?

Thank you for asking..hah ( I will get all over the place often so try to stay with me πŸ˜„ )

I’m saying don’t miss the kisses.
Pay attention.
Open your beautiful eyes and catch them.
(The kisses He sends you may not look like mine but they’re there I promise!)

Every time that white butterfly flutters by I imagine Papa blowing a kiss to me and that kiss taking off as that butterfly. And hence, “White Butterfly Kisses.”

Haha I can’t contain my heart even thinking about it! πŸ’“

Ladies, I know the dreadfully misnamed “cuddle season” is approaching and all.. and some of you may be in your glorious single season (by the way, you better embrace it now lovely you only get one..and in a righteous way don’t be gettin cray-zy hah πŸ˜‰) but, don’t think for a moment that you’re forgotten or give access to the lies of the ” I need a relationship” syndrome to entice you to “act now!” to get into a temporary thing. Allow the LOVER of your soul to love you! To romance you. To reveal just how much He wants you to be showered with His splendor. PERMANENTLY. Because you’re worth it to Him.

He can love you more in a moment, than any one could in a lifetime..😊 (if that didn’t make you feel all warm inside read it over!)

So amazing one, go take a walk.. quiet your mind.. be all there.. listen.. look.. take it all in. Oh, The kisses! πŸ’— I shall exit in song…

“… And heaven meets earth like a sloppy wet kiss.. And my heart turns violently inside of my chest.. I don’t have time to maintain these regrets when I think about the wayyyy… HE LOVES US..” (How He Loves Us- Kim Walker Smith) 😌

Loving you,

Tanisha Poni πŸ’œ

That please isn’t pretty.

Isn’t it relieving to find out you weren’t made to please everybody?

Oh..I’m sorry you probably didn’t know that.. Well let’s get to it then. πŸ˜„

Ahem.. “You weren’t made to please everybody.”

Somewhere along the way we got the words LOVE and PLEASE mixed up.

We weren’t asked to please everyone we were asked to LOVE everyone. (1 John 4:7-8, 1Peter 4:8,etc)
We were created to please ONE. I’m sure by the boldness of that you know who the “one” is, but just in case it’s Papa, God, Jesus, or whatever you like to call Him.

In Galatians 1:10 it says,
“For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.” Yikes. Pleasing and even trying to please man would demote us from serving just Jesus. And I’ll tell you right now you ain’t got the time for all that work just to be demoted from your true heart’s desire (to please HIM)

But let’s get another scripture in there for back up in case it’s needed.

Colossians 3:23 reads,
Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men”
NOT men. Whatever you do, do it well yes, but for THE LORD and The Lord only.

Man doesn’t give us validation to keep on living (or doing what we do) so we shouldn’t strive to get it from someone that doesn’t even have the right to give it.

Everything you do is and should be for the audience of ONE.

People around you get to witness this and yes it may provoke transformation or curiosity or whatever else but people are not whom we need to try and get happy or satisfy.

You are NOT responsible for someone else’s happiness or satisfaction. You can always ADD to their happiness or satisfaction but it’s not required nor necessary to strive to do so.

R E L A X. (I love that word so you might see it often πŸ˜„)

You can shake off the lies that try and taunt you with having to be perfect for everyone else, to do whatever it is you do well, just so the people witnessing can be content with you.. Yea..Nah!

You be YOU for HIM.

Cease striving.
Cause honey, people are never quite satisfied by anything other than Papa sized satisfaction. Period.

So shake more off.

I’ll let you in on another truth…

He is ALREADY pleased with you. Right now. 100%. Right where you currently stand. You please Him. He couldn’t be a prouder Papa, He is in awe of you so much so that you’re all He sees when He looks at you! (Deuteronomy 32:10 – sub in “her” for “him” πŸ˜‰) And you did NOTHING. Not one single thing.

Now let that one sit and soak for a bit..

Haha wow how refreshing it is!!

Your Creator is pleased with you as His creation.

Your Papa is pleased with you as His daughter.

Your Friend is pleased with you as His friend.

Your King is pleased with you as His princess.

Your God is pleased with you as His Worshiper.

Rest in that truth today.. You are released from that slave lie in pleasing everyone. If they aren’t pleased with you they better go somewhere with all-a-that! Cause it’s NOT going to effect how you operate and continue to please Him. πŸ’(#shoooot)

Now… Back to my first question,
Isn’t it relieving to find out you weren’t made to please everybody? πŸ˜‰

Loving you,
Tanisha Poni πŸ’œ